My name is Mira Green, and I am a wife, a mother, and a bereaved mother. I separate those last two descriptors because I’m no longer the person I once was so “mother” is no longer fully accurate as a description of me.
On May 18th, 2013, we lost our beautiful, vivacious daughter, Melinda, to an accident even the police could not explain. She was a spectator at a Jeep show when a demonstration went horribly wrong and she was crushed between 2 vehicles. She was 20 years old, had plans for a bright life, was planning her wedding, and loved life every second of every day. She was joyful, forgiving, stubborn, happy, witty, and always smiling. Over the last year, we have suffered unimaginable agony trying to accept what’s happened and to have a life without Melinda physically here.
I started this blog as a means of expressing my feelings, whatever they may be, in order to release at least some of the pain. I also hoped that it would be some comfort to others who may stumble across it, letting them know they’re not alone in their grief and they’re not going crazy as they try to make some sense of what’s happening to them.
Over the last year, I have spoken with many other bereaved mothers and have learned that, even now, we are blessed for all that we still have and all that we had with Melinda. It’s cliché to say that you realize what you have only when it’s gone, but we were fortunate enough to have realized it earlier. We have amazing memories of family times and traditions, and we are joyful to know that we raised two of the most awesome young women anyone could hope to meet.
I hope if you’re reading this, it’s out of curiosity rather than need, but if you are a member of this horrible “club,” I hope you find some comfort in my words and know that I am deeply sorry you ever had a need to seek out this blog or any other like it. Please accept my most heartfelt condolences and know that you are not alone and that others understand, really understand, your loss.